I give you "unreserved" rights to call me out on this one if it is a lie. This piece is based entirely on my opinion and observations and the reason for the post in itself is to seek education not malice. So I suggest you respectfully pass across your opinions and sheath your swords as necessary......Thanks for your anticipated co-operation...:D
Take a look at BellaNaija's Weddings tab.....go through the Archives.....older posts....What do you notice?(Speaking of which, I believe BellaNaija takes down some of the wedding posts after a while)
I was educating a non-Nigerian about Nigerian weddings the other day. I delved a little into inter-tribal marriages and typically, my go-to place for visual aid was BellaNaija. While I browsed through the pages, I realised this:
For approximately every 5 Yoruba men marrying a Igbo/South-South women, there was only one Igbo/South-South man marrying a Yoruba woman. (at least from the BellaNaija lens and yes, I know that can't be representative of the whole populace)
My question is why is this so?
I typically put Igbo and South-South on the same side not because I think they are precisely the same, but because I think the perception of most people about these two tribes is that they are interchangeable/similar (in comparison with the other tribes). Matter of fact, my question is directed more at the Igbo men.
I believe strongly in this generation because I think it heralds the beginning of the new Nigeria in terms of how we see one another tribally. This is because there are a lot of inter-tribal marriages taking place than before and ultimately, this will lead to a Nigeria with distinct yet very cordial tribes.
However, with my aforementioned observation, it seems a bit one sided. So enlighten me, my Igbo brothers and Yoruba sisters, what is going on between you two? Are you Igbo brothers scared of diluting the clan ni or you just don't want Yoruba wahala? Yoruba sisters, are you people scared of the numerous cultural practices (both true and untrue) that you have managed to hear about them?
Speak to me people, am I alone in my observation?
P.S: I deliberately left the Hausas' out of this whole thing because quite frankly, you and I know they rarely ever ventured out of their tribes for spouses and they don't even seem to be starting anytime soon.