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Friday, February 3, 2012

Moment of Sober Reflection

Lovelife4sale asked me how I was feeling the NY spring feeling weather. NYC would have been a better insert and the operative word should have been "enjoyed". Cos this is my final answer:


God bless Upstate New York weather! I was just ready to break out into my nice outfits and flats in NYC before Upstate came calling. And that’s what I found….smh….Only till May…Only till May!

Moving on swiftly, I have a short story to tell. Sit back and read it just like I have called it, a story.

Nehemiah got a leading from the Great One to go and rebuild the wall of Jerusalem. It had been in ruins for a while and that had been a sore spot for Nehemiah. He shared his vision with the people and was able to mobilize some of the youths to join him on the mission. However, two of those youths actually laughed when he shared his vision. Their names were Sanballat and Tobias. By their reasoning and from their perspectives, Nehemiah and the mobilized were on Mission Impossible I. They scorned him, his idea and the people who believed in his dream. They even enumerated the reasons why it was an impossible task. Nehemiah was convinced in his mind that he had had the injunction of the Great One so he went ahead anyway. At the end of the day, a wall that was supposed to take about 3 years to build, took only 52 days. That is not the full story but for the purpose of this post, let’s end there.

When you have a vision, it is foolhardy to expect that everyone will believe in it. There will be one, two or more Sanballats and Tobiahs who will give you reasons why that dream can never see the light of day. 

Defense mechanism #1: Prepare for some naysayers.

What is worse than the naysayers is when you are the Sanballat and Tobiah of your own dream. 

Confused? Or you think this is impossible?

I like to think of myself as a very rational and realistic person, but I am soon realizing that most times, eventually, it comes off as being cynical and pessimistic. I have had several ideas to do things, both for my good and the good others, but killed the potential by over analyzing. 

I can feel the hackles of “realists” like me rising already. Do not get me wrong. By all means, still be realistic. Be aware of the pros and cons of your decisions. However, you still need to remember that you CAN"T PREEMPT EVERYTHING that can go wrong with it. As an extension, it is IMPOSSIBLE for you to mitigate against ALL possible mishaps. Even in statistics, there is never 100% confidence interval. It may be close but it is never 100%. 

One of the characteristics of entrepreneurs is their ability to take risks. Remember this scientist (who I can’t remember) who experimented 1000 times (I think) before he got it right? You really think he didn’t despair at some point?
He sure must have. The important thing though is that his outlook and definition of failure is different. The 1000 times of not getting it right to him was just 1000 ways of not getting results. The higher your fear of failure, the lower your chances/tendencies to be innovative and creative and to take initiative.

So what if you don’t get it right?! On to the next, babe! Or maybe just like the scientist, back to the drawing board! Be less of a Sanballat and Tobiah to yourself. GET UP from your mat and DO SOMETHING! You never know!

By the way, am I the only one who thinks Asu Ekiye is aging into a more and more good looking South South Prince? Deng, that man looks good! Dance away your stress to this visually and audibly rich song:


Till I pay my next rent on this space,


Forget! This Space = Eniye!

By the way, today/tomorrow….02/04….makes 4 years that I met YY. I feel so blessed to be a part of that young man’s life. Say a word of prayer for us when you can…..;)

I love you guys, I really do.

45 comments:

  1. Asu Ekiye reminds me of my childhood!!! I love it!!! nice story!

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    1. I just love the way his songs sounds even though I don't understand the languages.....:D Glad you like it

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  2. This post is totally for me. Thank you!

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    1. That's right! Go for it 21stCenturyMom!

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  3. May God bless and strengthen your relationship and this post is making sense gidi gan o.Have a fab weekend.

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  4. The song was literally raidiating through my speakers. I love this post hands down. O ye Tobias and Sanballats may you become ashamed of the lack of faith in the dreams GOD has given us

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  5. How inspiring Honeydame How inspiring. I sure needed this. Thanks girl and Congrats to YY and yourself...... plenty more years to come in joy.

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    1. Awwww...glad you feel that way about it. I was very sure that there are others like me. Thanks again Missy Tee

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  6. May your relationship with YY continue to grow stronger as each day goes by. Have a lovely weekend, and stay warm.

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    1. Thanks Myne! I sure stayed warm, so warm I had to literally tear myself out of bed on Monday

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  7. Love this post! This is the first time i'm hearing of/ listening to the guy *covering face in shame* but i love how traditional it is. God bless you for sharing and bless your relationship too

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    1. Awww...thanks Dosh. Asu Ekiye is a legend, I don't know of any other way to say it.

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  8. Many more fruitful years to you and YY. Thanks for this post. The fear of failing has held me back from doing a lot of things that I know I should have done. I'm going to dare and do some of those things now and even if I fail, I can always try again.

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    1. Way to go Che! and thanks and Amen to your prayer

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  9. Na wa See South-south branding :) Loves it.

    The higher your fear of failure, the lower your chances to be less innovative and creative and to take initiative.
    Very true. We gotta rid ourselves of fear of the unknown. Lean on God and just Do It!

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    1. Joo o!!! U know how I am around those people na...:D
      I messed up a bit on the typing of that "quote" but I know you caught my drift....
      Original Ginger your swagger!

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  10. Ok, now getting off my lazy behind and doing IT! thanx for the inspiration. So, i'm very ready for Aso EBi thingz o. I can stop dancing today sef so i can come out with full force on that day *wink. Many more wonderful years to u guys *hugs*

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    1. haahahahah,,,,aso Ebi bawo?! alakoba! abeg o!
      Thanks Sis!

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  11. I wish you all the Best...

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  12. Hmmmmm,you actually spoke my language.Nice! *grin* Congrats to you and YY,God will definitely make you guys stronger than what you are happy about right now.

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    1. Ha! U see our connection dey badt gan-an?! Thanks Bro.

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  13. Hey honey, havent been here in awhile. I see your going through some things here. I hope and wish you all the best.

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    1. Thanks Shar. Congratulations once again on the wee one.

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  14. I fastened my seat belt as advised, expecting a rather crazy ride but guess what? It was a godly ride through the walls of Jerusalem. Although Sanballat and Tobias tried to discourage me from using my seat belt but Nehemiah's call was enough encouragement. LOL!


    Thanks for stopping by my blog. Wishing you and YY a fruitful journey ahead.

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    1. hahaha..You must be a special person cos it is rarely ever like this around here...take a peek at the older posts and you'll see what I mean.
      Thanks for your prayer

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  15. Silencing the Sanballat and Tobias isn't easy but I am on that journey. I wish you and YY an awesome journey.

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    1. Uhm,....don't I know it! Those two characters are mad loud too...but at the end, it is definitely possible! Thanks Ma'am!

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  16. So true about being the Sanballat and Tobias of your own dream! I do tend to over-analyse things when it comes to me, but I'm learning to close my eyes and Just Do it!!

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  17. yer sometimes i tend to over analyse things myself but in the end i end up doing it.God bless you and YY many more years to come for both of you.

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    1. Thank God for you o. Problem with me is that I don't always follow through. I am getting there sha. Thanks Miss

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  18. oh ye Tobiases and Saballats, hear the voice of the lord...hehehe..honeydame preach it sis!!!. congrats to ursef and yy. more vaseline to ya elbows...4 years???...wow..nwa pawpaw mehn yo!!!!!

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  19. Awesome inspiration in this post! I tell you, our God is the one that calls those things which be not as though they were. We His children but begin to live in that faith as well or else, we will find it hard to please God, let alone get Him to act on our behalf. Thanks for this ma.

    I say God will keep you and YY forever in Jesus' name. No strange man or woman will come in between you.

    - LDP

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  20. WOW Honeydame, How did I miss this post? Just saw it from H's blog..Thanks for sharing very very encouraging.. :)
    Very lovely song

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