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Saturday, September 5, 2015

What Makes HoneyDame Lovable?

You didn't know I was lovable? Good morning to you too!

I saw this post earlier on my juicing inspiration’s blog the other day and I haven’t been able to get it off my mind since then.

So,

What makes HD lovable?

I am lovable? I am thinking of myself as being lovable? Such narcissism!

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So, am I actually lovable? Just like Seember, I had…and am still having difficulties answering this question.

Perhaps I am lovable. Sometimes.

I like Seember’s categorization so I will lean towards that style too.

My Mother: I am a lot like her. This is both a good and a bad thing. But as far as she is concerned, I think this means that I can easily understand her, even without words. This also means that she trusts that I will be on top of any task that she has assigned to me or that needs to be done. There was a part of me that had wondered if my tendency to get things done is borne out of my “middle-child-syndrome”, hence the need for me to want to compensate or gain relevance by being the more reliable one (to a large extent). But I have since seen that just like her, I like to get things out of the way as soon as I can afford to (for my peace of mind, mainly). She has also thrown the word “considerate” around a lot of times.

My Siblings:  I am not even going to attempt to vie for the title of “World’s Best Sister”. My take on “siblinghood” is a bit damaged. My family set up is a bit unusual, but I love my siblings, all of them, in many different ways. However, from my experience, strong ties just because of blood relation is not a given, especially at the latter parts of our lives. It is what it is. In view of that, much as I;d ideally like for us to remain close-knit and one big happy family, I don't make demands of them. I let them decide how much of themselves they want to give away. Despite this, my communication lines are always open. Everything and anything can be up for discussion. So, I’d say that my siblings find me approachable and low maintenance and that’s probably why they love me. I’m also a largely friendly/fun person. Wait, Clan, you guys love me right?!

My Inner Caucus: I have to admit, as far as this category is concerned, I am probably more blessed than a blessing. In spite of that fact, I suspect that my most endearing characteristics to this group of people are probably my sense of humor and my accommodating mien. I am a “long rope giver”. Again, I am low maintenance and usually undemanding. I'm not a fussy or forceful person. I let you choose how much information you want to give, how close you want to be (I must be willing to be close to you too, by the way, but I let my people set their paces) and adjust as needed. We don’t have to talk every day or night, but I am there when you need me.


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Acquaintances: Well, when I am in my element, I can be quite fun to be around. That works most times. I also tend to have a high threshold for crap most times. So, it takes a while before I severe associations.

Co-Workers: I have gotten feelers that I am perceived to be approachable, knowledgeable, reasonable and fair, for the most part. They know that while I may not have the answers for them, I will steer them along the path of the answer (the much that I know). Again, I am not sure that this is a good thing, as I am currently in a position where I am not supposed to be humane or reasonable. LOL.

Men: This one is a laughable category. I don’t know which man “loves” me from the one who “loves” me. I mean, have you seen me?! I’m all that and a bag of chips, what is there not to love? *Flips hair*  LOL.
I have gotten varied and sometimes contradictory pulses from this category. I have had the word “fair and reasonable” thrown at me a couple of times. There has also been “intelligent”, “open”, “easy to talk to”, “real” etc etc but I have also heard “uptight”, “difficult” and “unapproachable”. But I  digress, we are keeping it positive, yeah?

One-off Contacts: My default mode is friendly but very lane-conscious.

On the whole, I know that I am a very patient person when it comes to relationships, all of them. I believe strongly in natural progression so a lot of people feel comfortable with that. Also, I may bitch, and moan, and rant, but I still hold on. I hold on until I feel fully convinced to let it go. The letting go eventually usually occurs in different stages of demotions. By this time, I must have tried all within my power so that it doesn’t get to this point.

An interesting addendum to this is that I also fortunately happen to have a semi-forgetful mind. I don’t believe in burning bridges. So this means that even after letting go, after a while, the lines may be open again. I hardly ever close off completely. Not so much because I don’t remember that the situation was stressful in time past, but more because I have probably forgotten the details of the stress, so, I may be willing to mount again. I am told that this may be synonymous with forgiveness, but I dare not lay claims to being that magnanimous.

Now, this post has brought me to a place of self-awareness and that makes me very interested in what your thoughts are of me. Ehn, I agree that I have shortcomings, let’s save those for another post, maybe the next.


P.S: Is this enough penance for being away for so long? I'm forgiven? Awwww, Thank you! :*


Those of you who know me, please feel free to remind me of my other awesome traits. Flourish in the comment box!

I highly encourage you to do your version of this post. When you do, please linkback here or drop a comment with the link on this post and Seember's.


28 comments:

  1. I have the title of the awesomest sibling..*dropsmic*#uknowwho#
    You are a really disciplined sibling and can be a worrywart sometimes . It is refreshing to see this new more positive and relaxed you. However, i'm secretly jealous of you #nuffsaid#

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  2. Praise master Jesus, HD is back blogging! Not like I have been a saint anyway so let me hold it right there. I have had the privilege to meet you and I think you are spot on with your assessment. You are easy to talk to, fun to be with and just really adorable with a badass shape.

    Please don't be away for so long again biko.

    Cheers!

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    1. Awwwwww!!! U people are mushing me up!

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  3. Happy new month and welcome back.

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    1. Thank you and wishing you the same.

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  4. Certainly not enough penance, my friend!!!! But it's a good start. Lol. *hi pot...meet kettle* But I'd say as far as online interactions go, you are up there! Fun, fun loving, witty and very likeable. So wait...I'm the only one that hasn't met you!!!! My friend fix up on that jare! Glad to have you back, dont stay away so long again.

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    1. Miss May-Born,be kiavu!!!!
      WE ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO MEET. I WOULD BE SO HONOURED FOR THAT TO HAPPEN. I MEAN EVERY BIT OF IT (EVEN THE CAPITALIZATION)!
      I believe it WILL happen, at the destined time.

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  5. Your culinary skills and your "madness"!!!!

    More seriously though, you have a very large heart, your sense of humour is crazy, you're smart and very real/down to earth and yea, you can worry for Africa but you're tres lovable.

    I'm yet to see the uptight you though. My awesome must be rubbing off on you lol.

    P.S: I wonder if i should do this post too *thinking*

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    1. Hmmm My awesomeness rubbed off on you,now yours is rubbing off on her...bottomline is my awesomess is borning pikins.Niceeeeee!!!

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    2. No comment! And over 1 month after, you havent done your post. Shame!

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  6. Abeg abeg abeg! Let person hear word!!! You? Lovable?! You that refused to be my second wife? And i still wanna eat all those food!

    One the real now though,you actually are lovable.Smart,intelligent,with a very good sense of humour,crazay! Chances are i'd have kolobied you had i not been kolobied by Kayla's mum.-____________-

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    1. *Covers face*
      LMAOOO....kolo-gini?! LMAo GERRARAHERE!

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  7. Hi,

    I really enjoyed reading this, you are delightfully witty. "long rope giver" cracked me up. :-)

    I look forward to reading your own take on my self-love angle.

    Have a great rest-of-the-week.

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    1. Aww, thanks Nedoux! You are an incredible writer!

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  8. Naaa, I will not be deceived by this post. You are going to disappear for one more year again. I know your type o.

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  9. That's how Nazzy always arrives late..

    Anyways, as far as online personalities go, you rock. Lovable is definitely the right word.

    Why do I feel like Atilola is so right? We'll soon start blognapping people. Yes, it's a word.

    So glad to have you back

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    1. Better late than never, darling Nma!

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  10. Its so funny how i have never met you in person but our convos are just like we have known each other forever, you are just simply adorable, i am glad you have awesome factors that bring it out in you

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    1. Awwwwwww!!!!!! You guys are killing me!!!!! Thank you for this, really!

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  11. Finally someone has blogged after so many ages.It's awesome tho welcome back! I think you're lovable..you come across as such.

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  12. A bit too reasonable for your good at times. Fun to be with. Adorable. Good listener. Amazing person with a good heart. Occasional skoinskoin-ness. Jesus lover so what's not to love?

    Words fail to describe your looks so I'll stop right here.....2015 wouldn't have been 2015 without you.

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    1. *slow Whistles*.....Coodisbeme?!!! Triple wow! Ok na!

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  13. Hmmm, just soaking it all in

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