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Tuesday, March 8, 2011

He said vs She Said

     My day had been uneventful. Nothing unusual had happened unless the fact that Ngor picked up on first ring counts.  My friend, an RA (Resident Assistant) in my hall who has this habit of inviting me for programs like 20mins to commencement invited me for a “program”.  Anybody who knows me knows I hate being taken unawares, especially for stuff like this. For reason unknown to me…oh, I remember, she came to harass me in my room! I went down to see what “program” she had. Turns out it was the showing of a movie. Recently, with a re-vamped space which has a big screen and cushy sofas, our lounge beats any cinema I can think of. 

     The setting was in Islamic-looking village, with Middle-Eastern looking characters.  The lady’s husband wanted a new wife. Even though he could marry two wives under Islamic laws, he could not afford it financially. The lady refused to grant him a divorce. Her daughters meant nothing to him. He was only concerned about turning her sons against her. Also, the 14year old girl he wanted to marry was his priority. It came at a price though. He had to find a way to reverse the death penalty charge on the little girl’s father who was under his care in the prison he worked in. Also, he had to find a way to get rid of her, his wife.

     Opportunity came when a villager’s wife died, leaving behind a young son.  It was decided that the lady would henceforth help them with household chores. He spurred the rumor mill, saying she, the lady, his wife, was dating the new village widow. He convinced and threatened the village widower to testify against her. Together with the village “Mullah” they connived and got a verdict against her. When the lady was called, she was asked to prove her innocence. She was told that when a man accuses his wife of adultery, she has to prove her innocence while when a woman accuses her husband of adultery, she has to prove his guilt. It was a no win situation for her. She was sentenced to death.

     Death by stoning.

     Her father was the first to cast a stone. Next was her husband. Followed were her sons.  Or something along that line. In any case, they were family.

     A day after her stoning, the little girl’s father was executed.  The lady’s husband could not marry the little girl anymore; he had not been able to uphold his part of the bargain. The village widower in anger, spat out that he had threatened and asked the man to what effect the lady’s stoning was now.

Was there anything done in way of punishment for the lying widower?
Was there anything done to punish the evil husband?
Was there anything done to punish the conniving Mulllah?
The answer to all these is  NO.

It is a man’s world. *sad smile*

She was Soraya Manutchehri, an Iranian woman, wrongly accused of adultery, by a man she bore 4 children for; 2 sons and 2 daughters.

YOU, should see the movie……….Happy Women’s Day.

29 comments:

  1. WOW...what a deep movie...so sad!

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  2. am nt sure i can watch it. might get too mad a stone my tv screen.. well not really. but i hate things like dt especially when they r based on real stories!

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  3. Is it a true life story? It is sooooo sad. Some cultural traditions are just too one sided, especially in Africa and the Middle east. Too bad

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  4. Yea, i remember watching this last year! the thing was sad jo. The wickedness of men and the significance of inhumane cultural ideologies. Made me sick to my stomach watching it. Her aunt was amazing! i was literally shifting on my bed towards the end when the car was not starting! lmao
    Great movie though!

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  5. God help us and our traditions in this part of the world....man's inhumanity

    http://www.strategicchic.com

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  6. Words fail me. And this is a real story. The sad story of so many women all over the world. Which culture allows a woman's sons to stone her? Like I said, words fail me.

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  7. wow!! i shud watch this movie....ahh *smh*
    "it is man's world" hmmmmmm

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  8. I saw the previews, and with this, I'll def be looking out for the movie. SMH, man's world indeed.

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  9. This reminds me of the book Blasphemy (which is one notch above The Kite Runner)

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  10. aww it's sooo sad :(
    do they still ston`e women in muslim countries? thought it was in the past they did that.
    lool @ "Nothing unusual had happened unless the fact that Ngor picked up on first ring counts" :p

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  11. pleasssseeee.tell me this is not a true-life story!....pleasees *blocking my ears* & screaming out loud......*sigh!!!* :((

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  12. Thanks for the review, I will certainly be reading the book and possibly watching the movie. I know this is probably non-fiction.

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  13. It is indeed based on a true story. The real Soraya died in 1986 and it was her aunt who related the story to a visiting journalist.
    It is a very sad movie..:((

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  14. okay I didn't read the post yet, just saw the title of the movie...I remember crying while watching this movie...its a great movie but very sad...

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  15. After reading your post, i went to download the movie. OMG, i couldnt stop crying. it makes my heart ill.

    I realized how blessed we, free women, are. we speak, love and live freely...we are blessed. very blessed!!!!

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  16. Wow...what a movie. Death by stoning...I cringe now just reading it. I dont think I cold have watched the whole thing..you are much braver than I...

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  17. wow this is deep, good thing its a movie ooo, very sad


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  18. just tagged u in an award..come 2 my blog to claim it :)

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  19. oh wow...will try to see it soon.

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  20. This is really sad. There is so much barbarism in this world...It is a wonder that a flood has not come around to end things once and for all.

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  21. NOOOO!!! There is NO WAY i'm watching such a sad movie! No matter how true the story might be. My life is hard enough for me to be watching stuff like this lol

    This is so sad and unfair! :(

    Adiya
    http://thecornershopng.blogspot.com

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  22. Wow... I had never heard this story before I saw this post. It is heart-wrenching... Situations like this negate all hope that one could have about the goodness of humanity... I don tire.

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  23. Hey dear,i just gave you an award on my blog,go grab it.

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  24. No thanks,i don't do sad movies!

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  25. I definitely need to see the movie. o waooooooo..... I am sure I will cry :(

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  26. goosebumps all over me. I hope I can watch. Sad. Aren't we lucky to be free?

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  27. The sad reality of the unjust world we live in. Sigh

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  28. sad story!! why do communities treat women so unfairly? why why why??! sick!

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  29. You are so brave. I have had so many opportunities to watch this movie but just kept dodging it. I knew I would cry buckets. I knew i would feel helpless. I knew i would want to kill someborri. So sad.

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