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Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Remembering Aunty K

It is amazing.....1 decade, gone like that. 10 whole years.

I dont have much memory of you because you had relocated to the North way before I was even born. But I definitely remember you as my mother's sister, the really pretty one who looked so much like Omotola, the one who was sooo gentle and quiet, the one who smiled with both her eyes and mouth....the whole face really, the one who was very fashionable (her clothing pieces were very delectable and classy), the one who was very giving (especially financially), the one who gave me my first real set of cousins (the others were just cousins by language), she would bring them all the way from the North down to the West to spend a few weeks with us, the one who could make all these exquisite drinks and confectionery (ginger drink, kunu, yogurt, etc). She was beautiful in and out!

She wanted a boy. We all wanted a boy for her. In my young head, it only made sense. Humans should have offsprings....males and females alike. She had 3 girls. That would have been her 4th child. I do not know if it was a girl or a boy, but I know whichever it was, it would have been loved fiercely.....had it lived.

Today, 10 years ago, Mum was restless. She just had to make the trip to the North to see you, since she had been told that your condition wasnt improving. I am not sure that she told your husband that she was coming. She dragged Aunty T, your twin, who was coincidentally sick, and made the journey with her. It must have been the twin-telelpathy-thing going on with you two...how cute!!! They didnt make it in time though. We had lost you about 30 minutes before they arrived there.

The few days after were.......dark...in the house. Mum.....amazon Ma Petrillo, Mother of Africa Ma Petrillo, would just lay on the lower bed on the "double decker bed" in the room, whimpering. As I later came to understand, for her, it was like losing a child. In fact, I am coming to understand that you, as well as the rest of you, her siblings, are her children.....me, my siblings as well as your children are her grandchildren.

I am sure that you know that your 3 girls have become Western Nigerians since then. Apparently, you havent been lounging in heaven, cos, your girls are growing up to be fantastic adults

Ada-d-Tailor
Your Ada now fancies herself a Fashion Designer. She has been learning how to sew for a few weeks now and it has been "hell" in the house! We are almost at the point of hiding the curtains from her. She's been redesigning and re-sewing everything. The funny thing though is that, Aunty K, your Ada doesnt like school!!! Where on earth did you get her from?!! It is quite nice actually, to see her passionate about something, for once! She is graduating from Uni. next year. I bet you would have been proud of her. Oh, did I forget to mention her sense of humor? She is a jester!


Your mini-you wants to becoming a lawyer. She looks very much like you and has the slant of Aunty T's shoulder (hehhehehheh, she hates to hear this). Sometimes, we beg her to talk, lest her mouth smells and at other times, we beg her to shut up. She loves all those mede-mede food serenren that you like too. She makes the meanest pot of plantain porridge. She is the logical one and her head isnt big for nothing (I see you baybee), omo yen mo iwe!

Your obi....last card is a nutcase. I am yet to see a more happy-go-lucky child. Yes, she is your Obi because she has asked us to call her "The Boy" for some time now. Frankly, I dont know where you got both your Ada and your Obi from because they are such deliciously annoying humans. Her sense of humor is off the wazo. She never gets angry, never cries, isnt sensitive, always ready to help and can find humor in EVERYTHING! She is nevur evur serious! She is graduating from High School next year.

If nothing else, I am grateful for the 3 extra sisters you gave me. It was difficult in the beginning, it was! But, given the situation at that time, I wouldnt have had it any other way. I wish I had paid more attention when you were teaching me how to make Yogurt sha. The last Zobo I attempted making ended up like a herbal drink. *shivers*

I guess all I am saying is, 10 years after, 10 years since all of our lives changed, 10 years of learning, the pain of the loss only gets a bit easier to deal with, it never goes.

We bless God for your life, Aunty K. Continue to rest in the bossom of our Lord.

Real quick question, Aunty K: Do you see a set of twins in my future? Is it two boys, two girls, or a boy and a girl? Abeg, make it happen o! One boy, one girl. Help me influence it with Baba God. Thanks.



Cheers to a life worth remembering!

49 comments:

  1. Love this. A true celebration of life. Dead but would never be forgotten.

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  2. Awwww....*wipes tears wiv handkie* this soo touching!

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    1. *hands you tissue to blow your nose*

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  3. This is sooo sweet. God bless her soul!

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  4. Very lovely and touching tribute... May God continue to keep all the people she left behind xx

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  5. Am so touched HD, thanks for remembering my mom today...#wipes tears..I love you, and thanks 4 being my compulsory sister....

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  6. Thanks aloty!!!!!! for this tribute*im too touched*!
    It is well appreciated!*sobs a lil*
    God Bless you.
    And what did u say about my shoulders again???(•ِ̑•̅)

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  7. very touching... the beautiful memories of our loved one's always keep them alive in our hearts...

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    1. Yes, indeed , they do. Thanks Priscy

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  8. This is so sweet. I can imagine her smiling & lovingly shaking her head.

    Why is everyone making me tear-up this week though. From Beautiful to Naija wife & now you! You people stay spoiling my gangster rep & it's not even funny.

    So there are two delicious nemesis for HD hehehe. I sha know God does not sleep :p

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  9. Aunty K is probably smiling up there...

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    1. Most probably. She was always smiling

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  10. Awww... I really loved this, especially the twin part. She will do it :)

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  11. *weeping seriously !!!!* I love this so much!! Not to worry about the twin part (*wink) It's like I knew her so well and I'm already missing her. May her gentle soul continue to rest in the most perfect peace that passeth all understanding...
    Happy 10th year rememberance !

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  12. Awwwww I could actually picture it all in my head.
    lol at twins...I have the medicine for twins o, better contact me asap for it :P

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    1. hayyyy!!! Beautiful'm and SM have been getting bussy!!! :D
      I will start compiling a list of my go-to-people :D
      Thanks Nne

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  13. Aunty K must be smiling. May God bless her kids and you too.
    Receive your set of twins in Jesus name :-)

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  14. So, Ma petrillo hounded me till I showed her this post. Knowing her, kainji dam ran over its bank. Aunty K you are always in our hearts. Meanwhile, please call your younger sis, aunty B to order... shez 50 shades of annoying.

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    1. LMAOO...Ngot, you are here again?! LMAO

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  15. Well said

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  16. Lovely lovely memorial. Death can only take the beloved frm the physical earth. Never from the heart of those who loved them.

    You really want twins? ok o. from your mouth to God's ears Amen.

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    1. hahahahaha..Amen. Thanks Ginger....:*

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  17. I just thank God her kids are doing well. God is indeed God.

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    1. He is indeed! It has been a tumultuous journey, to put it mildly, but God has come through time and again!

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  18. Now you almost made a man cry.How dare you?! I love this.I also lost an aunt,but her demise was way over 10 years.I still think of her sometimes.God bless you dear.

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  19. Sigh... Reading this, maybe it is time to finish my letters.

    Tis well.

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  20. Its amazing how even in death, some people still impact our lives positively, just reading this gave me that impression about aunt K...God bless her kids and bless y'all who were a part of her life :)

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  21. awwww... lovely piece. May your memories of her live on and may her children be blessed. LOL @ your last question. good luck with that quest.

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  22. a great tribute. i like how you focused on the fact that you focued on what you gained( 3 siblings) now who you lost. loving tribute

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  23. May your soul rest in perfect peace, Aunt K

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  24. your aunty k will be very proud of you. may she rest in peace.
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  25. Awwww this is so fantastic. Love the tribute and I love that her kids are doing very well. Don't worry she will influence it with Baba God and you will get your twins. www.secretlilies.com

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  26. this is just beautiful. I'm practically tearing up. God has a way of making us smile in the end, doesn't he?

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  27. Life is wasted if you don't leave a positive impact. Well written dear.

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  28. Lovely and amazing tribute to her,indeed her life is worth celebrating.love the slant you took to it,celebrate a life well lived.
    May she continue to rest in peace and errm,worry not,she is pleading with Baba God for twins for u right now.hehe

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  29. I am so sorry to read about the loss of Aunty K. The pain from Grief is really indescribable. I agree with you, time numbs the pain, but every once in a while, it come back sharply, lingers and goes away. Till the next time...

    I enjoyed the subtle humour in this heartfelt post.

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