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Tuesday, July 9, 2013

LDR Update: Where We Are At




It just occurred to me that I haven’t said anything about my membership in the LDR (Long Distance Relationship)  association. Pray, forgive my oversight. Since I all but shoved your faces into my LDR business since I started the blog, it only makes sense to give you updates on how it is going, since, YY and I are off LDR for now. I should start from the airport gist. Hmmm….maybe before the airport.

About a month before I came home (April 2012), YY was just pissing me off. He would talk, I would be pissed off, he wouldn’t and I would still pissed off. There were some expectations of him that he fell short of and I couldn’t bring myself to telling him, after all, he had a brain and thinking abilities, need I tell him everything? The die was cast though.  My ticket had been bought but we weren’t really on talking terms, in fact, I had started getting used to not talking to him every day. I think he was scared of me at that point too because I just closed up….locked shop…was very non-committal in my conversations and everything. He didn’t even know which day I was flying in. Eventually, about a few days to my arrival, I called him to give him the flight details. Per his usual (laid back) self, he arrived at the airport late, with his friend, my brother and a basket of excuses in tow. I was livid!

I mean, I am upset with you for reasons you don’t know yet. I have given you a redemption card (to pick me up from the airport, lol, I know how funny that sounds) and you failed to deliver?!!! Needless to say we started the trip on a very rocky ground. 

However, life happened!

In as much as he can be a goat….yes, I mean goat, he has several redeeming qualities. One of this is that he can be such a kid sometimes.  There are pros and cons to this quality but stay with me. 

Being a kid as a redeeming quality means that when I upset him, a few minutes later, he is ready to be friends again. It is like those children who you see crying profusely this minute and the next minute they are all toothy grins. It can be exasperating, but it is a nice compliment to my “take-so-long-to-simmer-down-and-let-go” self.  

Indeed, you can imagine my surprise when sometime last week, he pissed me off (he has a patent on that pissing-me-off thingy) and I, without much external influence, actually sought him out after a few hours without holding onto the grudge…..like what do I know?! Dude is rubbing off on me…God be praised!

Coming home for the period of time I thought I would (I was supposed to return in January), I had so many concerns about the relationship. I wasn’t sure that it would stand the test of time, given how much we both had grown apart (physically). However, I do have to admit, to a very large extent, that most of those fears have been unfounded. I have realized that this is as much a learning curve for him as it is for me. This is not to say that all is well and dandy and we will be bringing out aso ebi soon o….in fact, in spite of all the lovely niceties, we have attempted breaking up more than twice since July 2012 to now (it is funny now that I think about it).

So the point of this post is to reiterate that all your LDR problems WILL NOT go away automatically once LDR is over o! *pulls ear for emphasis*…You still gotta put your back into it and I don’t mean that literally, please! In fact, some issues that never came up in during LDR will begin to crop up.

Also, it is put hope in those who need it (fellow LDRers). LDR can work. If it isn’t that I seem to have some major “commitment issues”, we’ld probably be married by now. So, don’t despair……hang in there and do monkey swings while you are at it.



So yeah, @ilola, YY and I are doing well……thanks for asking in the midst of a more important issue  *shines teeth*



Ha! So Shoprite opened in Ibadan the other day! I had made up my mind to not go there until it is at least 3 months old. But God/devil used one aunty to lead me there yesterday. I had given her a ride and on impulse, she wanted to go to Shoprite. It was around 6pm so I figured it wouldn’t do me any harm….most people should be home by then. 


Per usual, I couldn’t be “wronger”!

You people should have seen the line at the bakery!!!!! We waited until the bread was done, we were given tallies and then told that each person was entitled to only one loaf of bread! On top my money!!! Gangsta that I can be (flips hair) I walked away with 2 loaves of bread about 2.5 hours after! 

YY begged for one and because I am magnanimous, I gave him (Never mind that it is just Ma Petrillo and I at home at the moment and I don’t even like bread). By the time I got home, I was too tired to even relish the bread. I sha tried sha and cut small to taste….and another one…..and another one….eventually, I called truce and went to spoon fish stew to down the bread with.

This point of this story?! It was very well worth it! No wonder Baale Iles (heads of house, husbands) were begging for  2, 3, 4 tallies….hahahahaha! But I am still not going back there for a while, abeg!
 

53 comments:

  1. Lmaoo@Shoprite bread. I was around the area 2ce last week but my liver wasn't enough to enter. I had no idea Ib peeps were that plenty ke!

    Madam, stow your commitment issues and do the needful jor. You people are making me grin already :D and don't forget to ask Atoskin and Beautiful for tips *wink*

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  2. lolllllll. smiled all through. abeg HD, do and bring aso ebi o. wedding jollof rice dey hungry me

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  3. Lol HD you are just a character
    Enjoyed reading :)

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  4. Abeg bring aso-ebi o, you don too tey for house. lol

    Waiting for 2.5 hrs to get 2 loaves of bread??? Don't they sell Agege bread there? lol

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    1. Taaaa!! Agege bread is not quite the same joo!

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  5. I no fit wait for shoprite break queue ever, I like the bread but not enough to go join line like say na manna from heaven.

    Do let us buy asoebi oh.

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    1. LMAO. Funny enough, I havent been there since then, no time abeg!

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  6. Lol yup some issues that were non existent become existent after ldr ends. Keep going! Can't wait to hear tales of aso-ebi oo lol

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  7. LDR huh? Una weldone o! Meanwhile,IB people no even fit let the Shoprite rest.Ah ahn!!!

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    1. If we let it rest now, you people will say Ibadan people can ruin business! No winning with una o!

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  8. I thought you were coming up to give us date and bank details for the aso-ebi.

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    1. hahahahaha...se?!!! Date and bank details abi? I can give date and bank details nonetheless o!

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  9. Aaaaahhhh. Thank God everything is cool. I'm having a feeling that you are a trouble maker, lol. U berra give yourself brain and not drag your feet too much.

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    1. LMAOOO...I should give myself brain, ba?! looollll..Plix, I am a gentle lady!

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  10. OMG! Dame, you are ridiculous!!! LMAO!!!

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    1. What now?! What have I done again?!

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  11. Sister Honeydame of God, biko take it easy with Bro YY o.

    You queued for bread for 2.5 hours?

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  12. Dynamics definitely change when LDR becomes Same town relationship. That's part of the fun and challenges of staying a couple i think.
    I think you and YY will be fine. Who no like Honey?

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    1. LMAO..abi o! who no like better thing?! This cracked me up so much, for some reason!

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  13. That sounds like a perfect guy, hold him tight :)

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    1. If he saw this comment, he would laugh so hard....perfect guy kwa! Me nko?!

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  14. Lol Commitment-phobe iranu! My friend, do and bring out aso-ebi. Shoprite and their jazz bread! I don't bother anymore,I just make eyes at the people in front of the queue and beg them to buy me one. I think the limit in Lagos is 2 for long queue days. Yes, I make my beauty work for me, bread-wise. Sue me *moju*

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    1. Negodu! SMh!!!!So you are one of them....mcheewwww

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  15. I love his easy going nature and it does rub off :)

    Now time for Asoebi.

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  16. as the survivor of an "LDR" I know first hand how quarrels and tiffs can seem so much deeper simply because of the distance. At the end of the day, you stick with it because even with those ups and downs, that person is worth it. p.s - you should try Grand Square bread if you're ever in Abuja

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    1. You are correct, Sir. Hmm....I will deffo look for that one whenever next I am in Abuja

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  18. Chic, #It's so good to be back here..
    You 'IS' funny!
    Glad your LDR with a twist is working out for you..
    As per the shoprite bread, everyone is so crazy about it.. Beats me sha!
    Boy, You guys really have to get me up to speed o...
    Be back for more gist!

    Formerly-2cute4u NOW Chacha
    www.askchacha4free.blogspot.com
    www.chachacorner.com

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    1. Yes, we really have to get you up to speed! haba! U were one of my first ever commenters..next thing I knew, pooof! u were gone! So good to have you back. I tried commenting on one of your posts, but it bounced

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  19. Blessings....
    good luck with that....
    one piece of advice thought....take the time to know and understand your worth, that would determine what you put up with and not put up with.

    peace..
    blessings always.

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  20. Glad that things with you and YY are good...happy that from LDR till now u've managed to make it work! Mehn I haven't tried shoprite bread yet? Its that good abi? Hmm I'll try it one day!

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    1. Iyawoooooo!!!!!1 *slobbers kissed all over your face*!

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  21. HD oº°˚˚˚°º.! Loooool! I have missed reading from you faa....you guyz will be fine :)

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  22. Hahaha, so the shoprite bread disease reached IB...kai, o ga o.

    As for you and YY, lol, sounds like you both truly understand each other, and he's having a good effect on you ...waiting for the next step :). All the best GF.

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    1. Thanks Jhazmyn..We are still a WIP infact, major learners... it has been.......interesting, to say the least

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  23. Hello,
    while doing some major cleaning, I came across your letter from the dress i gave you. I can't remember if responded to you, but i really appreciated it. I hope you are well. I had to google your name to find your blog because i left this community almost two years ago and things are so foreign to me. I miss it though. Any ho, hope ur well.
    God bless,
    Chizzy D

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    1. Awwwwww!!!! Thanks and thanks and thanks, Chizzy D. I hope things have been working out well for you. God bless you

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  24. LMAO! Abeg, come and give us another LDR update jor! It's september

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    1. Thanks. I will drop by because I most definitely dont even know my rights as a Nigerian

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