Sometimes, It Is All About You.....

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim Because it was grassy and wanted wear, Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same, And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black. Oh, I marked the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.

“The Road Not Taken” By Robert Frost….http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/the-road-not-taken/

     I first came across this poem some years ago while still in High School/Secondary School. I dissected this poem for academic purpose then. But while musing earlier today, the poem came again to my subconscious without the academic side of it. The poem talks about a traveler at crossroads. He is confused as to which of the two ways to proceed. One road bears marks of wear, meaning, people have trodden on that road, while the other was not as trodden. He decides to take the road that bore lesser marks of wear (for reasons best known to him) and concludes by saying that that decision has made all the difference, in his life perhaps.

     Life doesn’t always give us two choices, sometimes it is more than two which makes it all the more confusing. There are the popular routes, which friends, family, acquaintances and all have passed through. Of course, when you ask for directions from them, this is the only way they know, can vouch for and will give directions for. Each situation is unique. That Aduke* studied Medicine and has excelled doesn’t mean you will as well if you study Medicine. That Gloria* is into buying and selling of adire and has made tons of money doesn’t guarantee that you will not go into debt should you embark on the same venture.

     When faced with situations that provide different options, most times, you cannot be sure of what will lie in the aftermath of each decision, you can only make projections. For all the people who give advice, that is all it is supposed to be, OPINIONS. The ultimate decision belongs to you to decide what to do at any point. Sometimes, the road more travelled by is better and at other times, the one less travelled by is the key. There is no manual I know of that tells in what situation to go for either, the prerogative is completely yours. This said, be pro-active about decision making! Do not sit there waiting for revelations. Talk, ask people (if need be), think actively, be ready to take responsibilities for your decisions and do not let others (or their situations) make decisions for you because tí ìdí bá bàjé, t'o ndì ló ń dà (Literally translates as “When the bombom/buttock spoils, it becomes the problem of the owner”).

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By the way, M still hasn’t made the decision to let sleeping dogs lie, but I am making decisions to keep my actions in check, so that = no violence from me…She can talk talk talk for all I care…J