As I sit here with the smell of the jollof rice I cooked, assaulting my olfactory…..(sorry, had to chip that in), I cannot help thinking about the issue of marriage. No, easy people, breath in and out, slowly, HoneyDame is not getting married just yet, in fact, Ma (If you have not read the legend of Ma, click here) will not be allowing anyone pluck flowers in her garden anytime soon.
Anyway, what has brought about this is that, today, YY’s cousin, a male, will be getting married to his SweetHeart. These two do not know me, but once I stumbled on their Facebook page, my life has not remained the same and neither has theirsà I HAVE BEEN STALKING THEM. Don’t judge me yet, I have “valid?” reasons L. I just find these pair a whole lot fascinating. To me, their relationship is sooooo much like mine, minus the geographical distance in mine. So somehow, they have been some form of parameter for me. I mean, I need a partner-in-crime if I am really going to embark on this journey into the South-South with an older guy, right? Wrong! But that is an issue for another day’s discussion.
This young lady in question is just an addition to my growing hypothesis of young ladies getting married these days, especially those who reside in Nigeria. When I mean young ladies, I am most likely referring to 19-21.5ish. Has something been released into the air? Are they really equipped yet for this part of life? What really could be responsible for this trend?
I am aware that maturity is not really a function of age, BUT, isn’t age really a component of some of the other variables? With the increasing western emulation we engage in in Nigeria, I fear for this trend. Already, we are celebrating single motherhood and feminist movements (PS: I DO NOT HAVE ANYTHING AGAINST SINGLE MOTHERS, I am knowledgeable enough to know that several valid reasons cause this). What chance do these girls have to make their young marriages work in the face of all these movements?
Our grandmothers who got hitched in their teenage years had better chances of having marriages that worked because they did not have all these shoved in their faces. In my opinion, some of these girls are supposed to still be suckling at their mother’s breasts, yet they are on the way to suckling another creation= Scary! I sincerely hope Gbeske is not aiming to take over my life, hence this melancholic and pessimistic tone (Again, if you do not know the history of Gbeske, go here)
In a lighter mood, **Raising my flute in toast**, this is to wishing you both, S & E, a wonderful, divorce-free and blissful marital life. May you remain friends, lovers and spouses till the end. Enjoy each other and God’s presence in your marriage. **Click my flute with..err…nobody, well “Shrug”**. Maybe sometime in the future, I will share this post with you, or not.
Now, let me go teach that jollof rice a lesson while I wait for them to upload the wedding pictures……Boy , am I glad that they can’t view those who view their profiles? My ass would have been arrested a looong time ago! Stalkarazzi mode>>>>>On.
So, am I the only one who has noticed this trend? Or are my fears unfounded? Please your stories, dear HoneyDames and Dudes..:)